Tuesday, March 28, 2017

Crisis of finishing my first real year of teaching, what do to all summer??? Summer of 2007

As my first year of teaching in the warehouse called Paradigm High School came to an end I really did have a bit of a crisis.  What in the world was I going to do all summer?  I was now living in an adult world where all my friends didn't have summers off.  So my great idea?  Or more accurately describe, the great idea of an old George Wythe friend who was a sales manager of a pest control company?  Move to Atlanta, Georgia and sell pest control for the summer.  Looking back, honestly I can't believe I thought this was a good idea.  I don't know what I was thinking.  Morgan, the sales manager of that area, did a great job "selling" me on the idea.  He told me since he was the manager he'd really take care of me.  I would never have to be alone.  He would only put me in really good safe neighborhoods.  He would really help me out.  It would be an awesome experience.

So a couple of weeks later I was on an airplane headed to a suburb north of Atlanta.  I honestly don't remember much of this whole experience.  I remember a couple hours of training on what to say and how to convince people they needed to buy our product.  What I didn't realize until I got there was we weren't just convincing people to buy pest control, we were convincing them to break their contract with their current company to SWITCH to our company.  Silly Kristin.  With my little experience in the South, I had no idea that everyone ALREADY had a pest control guy.  But I gave myself a pep talk that if I can handle punk teenagers all day, certainly I can sell some people on my pest control company.

The next day was the day to get baptized by fire.  Of course Morgan did nothing to help me out or give me special treatment.  (That was all just a ploy to get me to be on his team)  I was pawned off on some guy I didn't know who had a car.  We stopped at the grocery store where I bought a gallon of water and some granola bars to  survive a hot muggy June day in Georgia and we were off.  This kid dropped me off in some neighborhood and told me he would be back to get me in 8 hours.  8 hours.  If something happened to me, no one would even bat an eye for at least 8 hours!  Oh and Dogs. Everywhere.  I tried knocking on a few doors.  Most people weren't home.  Some told me they weren't interested.  Some told me it would cost a lot of money to get out of their other pest control contract.  (Of course no one mentioned this in our training)  And then I got to an actually decently nice development community.  I felt much safer there and I was excited to try selling in there!  Then I saw the big sign that said, "NO soliciting in this neighborhood."  Great.  Morgan had taught us in our training to not pay attention to these signs.  He said these neighborhoods were often the best.  Well, you can imagine what happened next.  I got yelled at (for good reason) at every door I knocked on.

I have no idea how long I had been out knocking doors.  It had to be quite a few hours because I remember the sun was starting to set.  But I am assuming it didn't take me long to realize, I was not cut out for this.  So I sat down on the curb and just bawled.  A man from the neighborhood who had rejected me earlier came out of his house and went out for a run.  Just my luck, he was doing laps around the neighborhood and kept running by me.  The first few times he ran passed I just avoided eye contact.  On his third around he asked, "Are you okay sweetie?"  I tried to gain my composure as I nodded that I was fine.  He said, "You know, there isn't soliciting in this neighborhood so that's probably why you aren't finding much success."  I graciously thank him for his advice as he went on his way.

I just sat there and wondered what in the world I was doing?  A 24 year old girl from southern Utah sitting on some curb deep in the South trying to sell a product I didn't understand.  The biggest problem was I wasn't desperate for money.  I realized only someone who really needed money was cut out for this job.  Sure my first teaching job was quite meager, $27,000 a year.  But for a single girl with very few needs I was doing just fine!   Also another thing I remember thinking was if I was going to do something so insane as knock on peoples' doors it better be for a good reason.  I should go on a mission!  At least then it's a product I believe in!

I am pretty sure at that moment I promised God if He got me out of this horrible situation, I would go on a mission.  (The heat and stress makes one do and say some pretty crazy things)

By this point the sun was set and it was getting dark, another stupid situation for a girl by herself to get into.  I was cursing Morgan and his "I'll take care of you" sales pitch.  But I looked over into a wooded area and blinked.  I thought I saw flickers of light in the woods.  I must have been going crazy! And then it happened again and again.  What in the world????  And then I realized.  I remember them from the beginning of the Pirates of the Caribbean ride at Disneyland.  Fireflies!!!  I had never seen them before.  I probably didn't even believe they really existed.  I surely didn't know they blinked on and off.  But there they were!  I remember the joy of seeing fireflies really lifted my spirits.  And I decided I needed to come up with a plan of how in the world I was going to get out of Georgia.

My sister Sara's family with her husband and 2 little boys had just moved from Florida to Annapolis, Maryland.  Nate was a doctor at the Naval Academy.  She had told me she had an extra bedroom at her new house.  So I called Sara and asked if I could come live with her for the summer.  And with that I packed my bags and got out of Georgia as fast as I could.

(I don't have a single picture from my time in Atlanta.  I think I was hoping to forget the whole thing ever happened)
Annapolis, Maryland is arguably one of my favorite places in all of America.  I feel like it is as close to what real colonial United States used to look like.  It has a charm that I feel DC has lost to accommodate the millions of tourist each year.  I love everything about Annapolis.  The sailboat culture.  The Colonial architecture.  The picturesque touristy streets filled with local businesses.  I love Annapolis.

So the summer of 2007 was spent going for runs through beautiful Annapolis and along the Chesapeake Bay, helping Sara and Nate with their two boys, visiting DC, and road tripping up to Palmrya NY to hang out with my parents.

4th of July parade down Main Street

The Sacred Grove

But the most entertaining part of the summer was dating! This was where I truly learned the contrast of being a big fish in a small pond versus being a very very small fish in a huge pond.  In Provo I was nothing special.  A college graduate good, capable, fun girl working as a teacher.  I rarely went on dates in Provo.  In Annapolis (or surrounding areas like Baltimore or DC) I would go to one singles activity and come home with 4-5 dates.  It was awesome!  The two guys that stood out the most during this time were the Anesthesiologist resident in Baltimore and the Genetic Specialist graduate intern in DC.  I had a great time exploring DC, Annapolis, and Baltimore with them.  Obviously nothing panned out with either of them in the end but man did we have a good time!

So the summer of 2007 didn't end up how I expected but man it ended of being a wonderful summer!

Friday, March 24, 2017

The Summer of 2001

Maybe it was my grandma's funeral or a talk with my mom when I heard that my other grandma doesn't have any written history.  Or maybe it was a talk with my friend Brittney.  (One of the highlights of my day every day.)  Somehow we got talking about Ricks College/BYU-Idaho.  I started telling her a story about an experience I had up there.  Half way through the story she stopped me and said, "Seriously, every time I feel like I know you, you throw out a story like this and I remember how crazy your life has been!"  (For the record, the story I was telling her wasn't that crazy she is just super nice.)  But it is true that I feel like I have lived several different lives.

So I have decided to do short little stories about different times of my life.  If for no other reason than to put together someday for my person biography.  Great.  My memory will someday fade and it'll be fun to look back at in years to come.

Today I will start with an easy fun one:  The Summer of 2001.

By the end of my senior year of high school I knew it was time for a change.  So I was excited and nervous when my parents decided I should move out sooner than I had expected.  They decided I should move to West Yellowstone, Montana with my two cousins, Erica and Tammy to work for the summer.

I had never lived away from home.  I barely knew Erica and Tammy.  I had never used my own money.  I wouldn't have access to a car or a computer or a cell phone or other luxurious I had taken for granted.  But I was excited.  I loaded up my two brand new huge green suitcases I was given as a graduation present filled with all my clothes, my guitar, and my CD player/cassette tape boom box and I was on my way.  When my parents and I pulled up to the trailer park (consisting of 4 trailers) on the edge of West Yellowstone I started to question what I was doing.  When we went to open the door of the trailer and the door fell off the hinges and we were hit but the wall of stench my dad told me years later that he really began to question.  The trailer reeked of stale cigarettes, vomit, and who knows what else.  We had no furniture except the 3 mattresses my sweet aunt and uncle had picked up at DI and 3 metal folding chairs.  This was the start of the summer that will go down in the books as some of best memories of my life.

But that is the funny thing about memories.  At the time, we hated our lives.  SO much of it was so awful.  Now 16 years later, I look back with such fondness.  But back to the story.

Home sweet home....

The view of the other side of the trailer.  Yes, we lived right on the highway so every time a semi drove by our whole trailer shook.  Oh and yes, there was a door random door with a 3 foot drop. 

See Erica and Tammy had grown up very differently than I had.  They had been pretty much independent and self-sufficient since the time they were 14.  They both had already purchases their own cars.  They both had had real jobs since they were 16. And then there was me.

We worked as housekeepers at the Hibernation Station, a lot of 38 cute log cabins built right next to each other so tourist felt like they were "roughing" it a cabin rather than staying at a hotel.  We worked pretty much every day from 8-3 (or later) cleaning these cabins while the tourists went out of visit Yellowstone.  I will describe an average day during that time:
At 7:38 when our alarm clocks went off, we deliriously stumbled out of bed.  I have no idea what time we went to bed, all I remember is every morning waking up so incredibly tired.  I always turned on "The Good Life" by Weezer every morning to wake us up.  We would throw on our wrinkled light blue button down shirts and khaki pants and grab something to eat as we walked out the door.  My usual breakfast as I remember it was either pop ice or a spoon full of peanut butter.  You see, like Erica's car named Jester because he was always playing tricks on us, our refrigerator in our trailer didn't always work.  (Being naive little 18 year olds, we didn't think to call the landlord of the trailer to fix it)  We just stopped buying refrigerated foods.  So many time we didn't have any food.  I also don't recall ever taking a lunch to work.

We would get to work and clock in and say hello to Sharon, the front desk clerk and go around back to find out our doom.  I say doom because not all these cabins were the same.  We were paid based off the cabins we cleaned because some took a short time to clean while others were monsters.  Some, the easiest, were small 1 bedroom and bathroom cabins that were very easy to clean.  Change the sheets, vacuum, clean up the bathroom and you were finished.  Other cabins were large family cabins with multiple beds, including queen sized bunk beds and kitchens.  These cabins took so much longer to clean.  So depending on the cabins we were assigned we knew what kind of day we were going to have. But there was one major benefit of getting the monster family cabins... often times guests would leave food in the kitchens when they checked out.  Boxes of cereal, sandwich supplies, and our personal favorite half eaten tubs of ice cream in the freezer. The first thing we would do as soon as we walked into a cabin of guests that had checked out was see what kind of food they left us to eat.  If there was a good stash we would  call each other in the other cabins and we would have our real breakfast of left over food before the day began.

Yes.  If you are totally grossed out, I completely understand.  Half eaten food.  People we didn't know.  But I'll tell you what, it was an adventure.  And ridiculously unhealthy. 

We had all sorts of adventures cleaning those cabins.  Some absolutely hilarious but mostly absolutely miserable and disgusting and awful.  Clogged toilets, maggots falling from the ceiling, and Asian hair.... so much black coarse Asian hair.  It was a horrible job.  And the worst part was we rarely got a day off.  I once went 21 days straight working.  The horrible part was, even when we did get a day off, we were alone because the other two cousins had to work.

My favorite memory of our time working at Hibernation Station was the time the manager Sharon asked to meet with all 3 of us.  We were scared to death.  We were sure we were getting in trouble.  Our uniforms were always wrinkled and dirty.  We sometimes clocked in at 8:02 or 8:03.  Often times we had to return to our cabins to fix some of our cleaning.  The list probably went on of all the ways we were afraid we were getting in trouble for.  So you can imagine our surprise when Sharon greeted us at her office door and warmly welcomed us in.  She sat us down and said, "We just want to thank you for being such wonderful employees.  You 3 girls have been the best employees we've ever had.  Thank you so much for your hard work."  And they even put their money where their mouth was.  When we quit (a month early because we couldn't take it any more) they gave each of us a $500 bonus on our check with a letter of appreciation for being such wonderful employees.
West Yellowstone Public Library
My daily routine was to walk straight to the West Yellowstone library after work.  The library closed at 5 so sometimes I had to hurry.  I would go to the library to use the computer.  Since we didn't have a phone or a computer the only communication to the outside world came through checking my email once a day at the library.  Oh and actually letters.  I sent out real letters and got letters in return.

You can imagine the first few days of this new adventure was very difficult for me.  So much so that the first week I was there I slept every moment that I wasn't working.  Erica and Tammy were getting worried about me.  But then Sunday night we went to Sacrament Meeting.  In West Yellowstone all the YSA had to work in the day so every Sunday night at 7 was a Sacrament Meeting for all the kids that were working in West.  We went to church my first Sunday night.  After we talked with a few of other people there.  But we didn't think much of it.

Until the next day after we got home from work we were lounging around in our pajamas when there was a knock at the door.  Of course we didn't know anyone so we had no clue who it could be.... Unless it was Madman Jack who lived in the trailer next door.  He had already come over give us some bacon from the pig he had just slaughtered and tell us we could use his hot tub any time we wanted.  Tammy answered the door and a guy said, "Is Kristin there?"  So confused, I went to the door and there was a guy from church at our trailer.  I invited him in.  His name was Shawn.  But I was still confused how he knew where we lived.  Comes to find out he was renting an apartment from the same slumlord that rented us our trashy trailer.  Shawn asked the landlord about us and found out where we lived and came over.  I am trying to remember if Shawn asked me on a date on that visit.  I think so.

And with that I had a boyfriend.  Shawn was 24 years old.  I think recently graduated from college.  An outdoors man.  And nothing like anyone I had ever dated before.

Every night after we would get off work, Shawn and his roommates would take us on an adventure somewhere around Yellowstone.  We camped on the banks Hebgen Lake, swam in the Firehole River, went for drives through Yellowstone late in the night seeing wolves and other animals, and we visited other attractions like Mesa Falls.  If it wasn't for Shawn and his roommates, I don't think we would have lasted in Yellowstone for more than 2 minutes.  Shawn made it fun for us.

Shawn would bring me wild flowers in a Nalgene bottle.
But the real highlight of the summer of 2001 was it was the first time that I really had a best friend.  A true best friend.  Someone that more than anything (maybe a bit too much) I wanted to be like.  Erica was just so different from everything I knew.  She was passionate.  She was kind.  And she was just so dang cool.  Tammy had another job that she started every night waiting tables.  So a lot of the time it was just Erica and I roaming the streets of West Yellowstone.

One night Erica and I were bored so we decided to try and make some extra money by playing our guitars on the street corner.  So we loaded up our guitars, practiced the 4-5 songs we both knew how to play, and we were off. We sat on the corner of the busiest intersection of the booming metropolis of West Yellowstone (population 1,200) and sang away.  Luckily for us Erica has a beautiful voice and a lot more vocal training.  So I would sing the melody and she would create beautiful harmonies to our songs.  A couple memorial experiences during our musical career were the time we started singing Blowing in the Wind and a huge gust of wind came and blew all the cash in our guitar case down the street.  We immediately stopped and ran through the main street of West trying to collect our hard earned cash.  Another and the most memorable experience was when a group of varsity scouts walked by our performance one night.  They stopped and listened to the rest of the song.  Then they asked about us.  We said that we were trying to get enough money to fix our car.  (which was true, remember Erica's car Jester was always playing tricks on us)  This group of scouts felt bad for us and each boy gave us a few dollars.  We went home with a smile on our face at the amount of money we made that night.  It kind of back fired on me the next morning.  My family had come to town and they took me to breakfast at McDonalds before work.  As I was getting out of a brand new car I saw the group of scouts walking out of McDonalds and heard them say, "Wait a minute, isn't that girl from last night?"  Oops.

My first time living away from home was an eye opening experience.  I became grateful for things that I had taken for granted.  Leather couches, TV, a working refrigerator, and my family to name a few.  Erica and I left West Yellowstone earlier than we had planned.  We couldn't take it anymore.  My boyfriend, Shawn, had asked me if I was thinking I could marry him.  When I laughed saying I was only 18 he said he was wasting his time and needed to move on.  So after he packed up his things and headed out Erica and I decided we wanted out too.  So at the beginning of August we left our stinky trailer, our metal chairs, and said goodbye to West Yellowstone.

As we slowly drove (Jester couldn't go very fast) back to civilization we sang Simon and Garfunkel's song Homeward Bound.  Because probably never before had I realized the importance and had such an appreciation for the idea of home.

Sunday, March 19, 2017

It's Your Birthday, Shout Hooray!

 It's a wonderful thing how our lives change and evolve.  Hopefully always for the better.  As I went to bed Thursday night, at my usual 8:30 (thank goodness for Spring Forward!!! Going to bed at 7:30 is a bit ridiculous) I smiled and thought of the time of life when I couldn't sleep because I was so excited for my birthday.  I am glad those days are gone, sleep is the best!  But I am also grateful that I am at the point in my life where I don't need a lot of love and attention on my birthday because I feel so much love all the time.

But that being said, somethings happened recently that made me a bit insecure and beating myself up quite a bit.  So I was really grateful for the extra bit of love.  It was really a wonderful day.

When I got to the school at 6 am (to do my workout in the gym) I walked into my classroom to find this:

Birthday cards from hundreds of students.  So so sweet.

After my workout I went back to my classroom to find this: 
and this:

Here is all my loot from my dear friends and yearbook staff!
It includes:
13 different kinds of bubble gum!!!
2 vases of tulips!
Diet Coke and candy bars,
A whole basket full of tomato themed goodies!
Sugar scrub and English chocolate (from my British friend)
More Chocolate bars
and then in a few that need a closer look from my students:

The mug drawn by one of my sweet yearbook staff/students says, "Changing the world one child at a time"

And the card that went with the tomato themed present from Joan!!!

I need to add another card that Joan made me last week.... She is amazing!!!

I felt so so so much love.  School and birthdays is the best.

When I got home from school we went to Cheesecake Factory to use a giftcard we've had for months.

Brad was ready for a nap so he snuggled.... best present ever.

Happy birthday to me!
Not pictured: a celebration the next day at Alina's house with Aunt Raine.  Of course she made a delicious dinner of tri-tip and the huge Costco cake!

Thursday, March 16, 2017

Life just isn't fair.

I rolled my eyes every time my dad would say that to me growing up.  I hated it.  I hated that he could use it for almost everything.  I remember just shaking my head over and over again saying, "I know Dad I know, life isn't fair."

And I get it.  We each have our own individual trials we have to go through to make us who we need to become.  I taught a whole lesson on Sunday about trials.  It makes so much sense.  And the worst part, the part that makes the most sense, is that for each of us the trials we go through are so hard just for us.  We can look at other people and see their trials as easy because maybe for us that trial would be easy.  (especially on instagram... it  always looks like everyones trials are so much easier)  But the trials we need to learn and grow, man alive, why do they have to be so hard sometimes?

It's probably good I taught that lesson on Sunday.  It put me in the right frame of mind, the right perspective.

So when I was laying half naked on a hospital bed in a sterile room and the old grouchy radiologist said, "Yep, both your fallopian tubes are completely blocked and I can't unblock them." I was okay.

Later when I called my Dr to find out the next step, I didn't cry when the nurse called back to say, "I just spoke with the Dr and he says your only option now is IVF."

But in the early morning as I stare at my computer screen I wonder, why?  Why can't it just be easy?

I know I know, life just isn't fair.

And of course it could be a lot worse.

And I am so lucky.  And I am so grateful.

But still.... I wouldn't be human if there wasn't a little spot deep in my heart that wished it could be easy.

On a happier note: I had to take the day off work to do the stupid test.  So I got to go on my favorite trail run up Provo Canyon before the test.  It was the most BEAUTIFUL March day in the history of Utah. (Literally record breaking)  And for that I can be so so so grateful!
I will always be a Utah Valley Girl...

Monday, March 6, 2017

Blue Skies and Sunshine

I always thought my birthday was in the spring.  I have memories of flowers and sunshine and green green grass.  I realize now that was because I grew up in St. George.  Springtime in St. George is the most magical place.  So since Jason had a test Thursday and I saw that it was going to be a beautiful sunny weekend we headed south.  But first, when Jason text me to tell me he was outside my school to pick me up, this was out I came out to.  

We stopped in Cedar for dinner with my parents.  My mom even made me a delicious berry and whipped cream cake to celebrate my birthday early!  Then we headed to my parents condo.  When we got to the condo we realized we forgot our pack n play.... so we improvised.  

Saturday morning I got up and went for a run.  I rarely run long distances these days because I am sick of the treadmill.  So before I started running I told myself I didn't have to run very far.  I was so excited the more I run because it felt amazing!  I ended up doing over 9 miles!  (My calves are feeling it today) but man was it awesome!  Of course my favorite part of the run was seeing the signs that spring is coming!  No tulips have blossomed yet.... but so so close!

After Brad woke up from his first nap we went meet Nick and Jeanine's family at this new public park everyone has been bragging about.  And I'll tell you what, there is reason to brag!  This park was insane.  And of course packed because of it.  Even to enter the park is like Disneyland.  You have to go through a tunnel underneath a train.  If only there was a sign that said we were leaving today and entering a world of yesterday, tomorrow, and fantasy.... :)

But like I said... this park was unreal.
Yes that is a man made volcano that erupts.... 
A super cool splash pad
With a tunnel/cave/backside of a waterfall!

The volcano getting ready to erupt...
But of course Brad's favorite part was getting to play with his favorite buddies Sadie and Drew!
The coolest swing!  The baby swing and the other swing are attached!  (Maybe these swings are everywhere, but I thought it was so cool!)
Linz, this park MIGHT be able to even compete with Japanese parks!  (MAYBE) 

Not pictured from the rest of the trip:
After our adventure to the park and lunch at the Habit with every other person that flocked to St. George for the weekend.  Jason went dirt biking with a friend while Brad and I went swimming with Nick, Jeanine, Sadie, and Drew at the condo.

Both Brad and I are SO excited for warm weather.  I can't wait until summer when Brad and I can spend all day every day outside in our backyard!

Sunday morning we got up and headed to Cedar where we went to church with my parents and hurried home to have a short fun little visit with Aunt Raine.  Oh how we love the weekend....

Wednesday, March 1, 2017

From the Stair Master

Saturday morning I went to the gym like every other wintery cold Saturday morning of my life.  Saturday is typically the day I hit the stair master so I have plenty of time to watch TV shows, listen to audio books, and of course lots of people watching.  As I have written about before, the unique culture of every gym is so fascinating and could be a huge anthropology studying in and of it's self.  I wonder if other people notice it like I do.  Like what workout brands people wear, what type of headphones the majority have, how socially acceptable it is to get done up etc.

But Saturday morning started like every other Saturday until I looked out into the cardio machines and I saw Mike.  Mike and I met through a mutual friend my senior year of high school.  I had actually told Jason about him a few weeks ago because we were talking about cellphones in high school.  You see, although Jason and I both graduated in 2001.  2001 in southern California and 2001 in southern Utah looked very different.  Well.... or we could say spoiled kids in 2001 vs. not spoiled kids looked very different.  Jason and I grew up in two completely different worlds.  In 2001 I did not have a single friend who had their own cellphone.  I never knew anyone that even had a pager.  Most everyone I knew didn't have a reliable car.  Most of my friends had a car but like me, our cars weren't reliable enough to drive anywhere beyond the city limits of Cedar.  My car didn't have a radio or air conditioning or even defrost.  We lived a great life especially because we didn't know any different.

Anyway, back to the point, no one had a cellphone.  None of my freshman college roommates had cellphones either.  Or a car for that matter.  But that's besides the point, I was telling Jason how no one had a personal cellphone in 2001.... except my boyfriend Mike.

At the end of my senior year of high school my long lost best friend from 5th grade in St. George introduced me to Mike.  A Dixie College freshman who was super duper smart, a soccer player, loved Dave Matthews, and did I mention he was in college?  Of course I was smitten.  So for the last couple of months of my high school career I spent a lot of time with him.  He had a reliable car, a job, went to college, and the whole reason I told Jason about him, a cellphone.

The week before I graduated high school my parents had just gotten home from a trip to Idaho and decided that I should go work in West Yellowstone for the summer with my cousins, Erica and Tammy.  So with that, my relationship with the dreamy college boy was over.  And as far as I can remember I only saw Mike one more time in my life.  The fall of my sophomore year of college for some reason Mike started emailing me.  He was going to the University of Utah.  He wanted me to come down from Rexburg to visit him for the weekend.  So I hitched a ride with my roommate, spent the weekend hanging out with him, and returned to Rexburg to never speak to him again.  So that was.... 15 years ago?

Back to Saturday.  I was hanging out on my stair master, minding my own business when I looked across the cardio section of the gym and there he was.  He looked almost exactly the same.  Shorter than I remembered.  But pretty much exactly the same.

It got me wondering, am I exactly the same?

As I watched him run on the treadmill and then join his (I assume) wife to do weights I wondered, if I walked passed him would he recognize me?

I have been looking at all my old scrapbooks.  I have taken on the huge project of scanning all of the books to make digital copies.  (I am sure I will be busting out many more old pictures soon because some of them are just so fabulous) But looking back at my 18 year old self I feel like I am a completely different person.

My hair was long and crazy curly, I weighed at least 20-30 pounds heavier... so I wondered, would he recognize me?

So I went and did weights right next to him and his wife.

And nope. Not a thing.

I could have introduced myself and started an awkward conversation.

But no, I walked away with a smile on my face.  Why was I smiling?  Because I am so grateful that my life didn't go in a different direction.