Saturday, October 30, 2010
Thursday, October 28, 2010
Wednesday, October 27, 2010
Tuesday, October 19, 2010
Yes... all these pictures were taken with my phone. One of these days I am going to purchase a great camera. Until then, my LG NV3 will have to do.
Sunday, October 17, 2010
So when I find something that I can really relate to, I tend to cling to it, afraid that that moment of understanding will disappear as quickly as it came. Such a moment happened as I was reading a book. Now before I go on to praise this book, a bit of warning. This is not the type of book you will find at Deseret Book, although the title may suggest it. It is very vulgar, and I wouldn't recommend it to anyone that I know reads my blog. But I still want to write about this book because it was a wonderful read for me.
Thursday, October 14, 2010
Tuesday, October 5, 2010
Anne of Green Gables: At one point of the movie: "Gil and I have only ever been good friends!" At the end of the movie: "I went looking for my ideals outside myself. I discovered it's not what the world hold for you, it's what you bring to it. The dreams dearest to my heart are right here... I don't want sunbursts or marble halls, I just want you."
Clueless: This is one of my favorite movie moments. Cher was walking down some random street when she comes to a fountain, stops and says, "What does she want with Josh, anyway? He dresses funny, he listens to complaint rock, he's not even cute... in a conventional way. I mean, he's just like this slug who hangs around the house all the time. And he's a hideous dance, I couldn't take him anywhere. Wait, a second, what am I stressing about? This is like, Josh! Ok, ok, so he's kind of a baldwin, but what would he want with Tai? She couldn't make him happy. Josh needed someone with imagination, someone to take care of him, someone to laugh at his jokes... in case he ever makes any. Oh my gosh! I love Josh. I am majorly, totally, butt-crazy in love with Josh."
The movie When Harry Met Sally is completely dedicated to discussing this question and concluded that men and women can not be friends.Sally: You said men and women can not be friends.Harry: No, no, no, I never said that.... Well yes, that's right, they can't be friends. Unless both of them are involved with other people, then they can... This is an amendment to the earlier rule. If two people are in relationships, the pressure of possible involvement is lifted... That doesn't work either, because what happens then is, the person you're just friends with. Like it means something is missing from the relationship and why do you have to go outside to get it? And when you say "No, no, no it's not true, nothing is missing from the relationship," the person you're involved with the accuses you of being secretly attracted to the person you're just friends with, which you probably are. I mean, come on, who the hell are we kidding, let's face it. Which brings us back to the earlier rule before the amendment, which is men and women can't be friends."
So today I would like to explain my conclusion of the age old question, can a boy and a girl just be friends?
For the longest time I didn’t think it was at all humanly possible. But due to current circumstances now my thoughts have changed. As long as the boy is not attracted to the girl, a guy and a girl can be friends. You see, think about how many times you have heard a girl say, “I wasn’t attracted to him at first but the more I get to know him, the better friends we became, the more I started to like him.” Now reverse the thought, how rare it is to hear a guy say, “I wasn’t attracted to her at first but the more I’ve got to know her, the better friends we became, the more I wanted to date her.” Harsh
reality is… physical attraction to a guy is the deal breaker and almost nothing can change that. A girl may not be churchy enough, smart enough, or too high maintenance…. Those things can be compromised, but if a girl isn’t to the standard of looks that the guy is looking for she doesn’t stand a chance. So I have concluded unless some physical transformation happens such as the movie Sabrina, a guy that is not initially attracted to a girl is rarely going to change his mind.
So can a guy and a girl be just friend and neither party want it to be more? I believe the answer is yes. But only if the following equation exists: the guy is not physically attracted to the girl + the girl is not interested = Just friends. If the guy is physically attracted the equation ≠ Just Friends because sooner or later he is going to want to/ try to hook up with her and typically especially if they are very close friends she will go along with it and their relationship with change. If the girl is interested in the guy but the guy is not attracted to the girl… this = a long road of heartbreak for the girl.
So When Harry Met Sally was destined to fail at proving the hypothesis that a guy and a girl can just be friends because although it took them 12 years and two hours of hilarious cinema the movie really ended in the first scene. In their first meeting Harry told Sally how attractive she was. This inevitably led to their downfall.
Although it is very very very rare for the equation to exist, next time someone suggests they are “just friends” if the guy is not attracted to the girl AND the girl is not interested in the guy the worlds have aligned and a guy and a girl can be just friends.